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Every now again I feel the need to talk with yall for a minute

Dating:

A form of courtship consisting of social activities done by two people with the aim of each assessing the other's suitability as a partner as a spouse.

Talking:

A form of Pre-dating consisting of phone calls, text messages, and occasional home visits done by two people with the aim of assessing the other’s suitability as a partner in an dating relationship.  

I think I told you all once before I’m not the best at giving relationship advice, but I am pretty accurate when giving “talking” advice. Yes, contrary to popular belief, there is a difference between “talking” and “dating”. So often we get wrapped up in other people’s definitions of terms, we forget some meanings can’t and shouldn’t be changed. (n***as always trying to change up something)

Everyday has been Sadderday (s/o Nerd) for the last 2 years. Reason why you ask? Well, it’s a problem finding “suitable partners” that excel in the “talking” stage. It’s probably been some good ones out there that I left stranded in text message purgatory. Good for the next person doesn’t always mean good for you though. The point I’m trying to touch on is that, if you mess up during the talking stage, there is no hope for the dating portion that follows. People have different perceptions on how long it should take before you actually start “dating”. Some say 2 weeks, others say 2 days. (Whoever says 2 days, exit out this post, you my friend need help and are automatically deemed crazy) Me personally, it takes anywhere from 2-3 weeks for me to get a good enough grasp on your personality, dreams, and goals and how it compliments mine. Now, now, now to some, 2-3 weeks may sound like a long time and I know its ladies out there with the mindset of (if he likes me, it shouldn’t take 2-3 weeks to start dating) Bullshit ma’am. We mentally go through a checklist that typically takes longer to complete than a females checklist. So, ladies, and gents, here’s a short list of what to do and what not to do when you’re in the “talking stage”

Don’t Be Clingy

   Nobody likes someone that cant let them breathe. There’s nothing worse than feeling like your being watched by someone you’re not in a relationship with. All that does is foreshadow what can possibly happen down the line. We’ve all said that “pre-pick up the phone line”

*sigh* This n***a (females)

Or

 smh.. this b***h    (Males)

 Don’t invite them to a function where its going to be damn near your whole family there

This makes men and women alike scared as shit! That’s boyfriend/girlfriend/ dating shit, not “talking” activities. If he or she stays at home, meeting the parents is inevitable, that’s cool, and we can shake with that. It’s the family reunion type functions are the ones you need to avoid asking them to come to. You don’t want to put a “potential” in a corner with their backs to the wall. Most people don’t respond well to that type of pressure.

Understand that the world didn’t begin with you

What I mean by that is, nowhere in your mind should you think that he/she wasn’t and still isn’t talking to someone else other than you. Depending on your personality, you might be able to deal with it if you ask the person. If you know you can’t, just assume and don’t ask. Today we live in a society where options are involved in everything. Food, drink, homes, music, lifestyle ect. Never put all your eggs in one basket, keep options open. That way you can filter out the good vs. the bad.

Remember; you want this

Not this

All in all, if you take the right steps they can be your king or queen in no time. Main thing is don’t rush, take your time, he or she might be your “forever”

I hope this helps.

But hey, what do I  know?

*splits white owl*