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We all have our own fears; whether it be afraid of heights, afraid of spiders or afraid of orange peels (shout out to the creep girl on Maury). If you search the term "scared" in the dictionary - you might find this: scared (adj) fearful or frightened. I'm pretty sure your wondering what does this have to do with anything. But hear me out. The question that inspired this blog came from a tweet I recently tweeted and it was along the lines of why "men scared of commitment". Now y'all know how I am, when I see a tweet , I began to rant and rave about it. So here it goes *clears throat and drinks water* here we go.

Let's start from the ground up. When you where a kid, you subconsciously learned from your parents relationship. You watched them smile and be happy as hell and you have seen them battle thru the toughest of situations. You secretly wanted to grow up and grow old like them. Now if you was like me, you seen your parents happy at the beginning of the marriage and tear apart close to the end. *cues readers to go awww* Then you have those who never spent time with their parents and yearned for that "fatherly attention" or "motherly love".

Now I know y'all like, what point is he getting at, be patient young grasshoppers. In all these situations, you learned how relationships operate. And from that lesson, that's how you thought a marriage or relationship was supposed to be. If you grow up watching your dad beat your mom and she keeps doing nothing about it, you're going to think it's ok to be in and support an abusive relationship. If you grow up with both parents and your parents constantly COMMUNICATE their disagreements and have an argument without them splitting up, that's what you will do. If you grew up constantly watching ya pops having hella females around, that's all you know is have a lot of females in ya life to hold certain points in life, whether it be good sex, good food or just intellectual conversation. You feel like you have to have all these to feel "complete"...

Now fast forward to now. You're constantly in relationships that in somewhat are split images of your parents marriage (it's my opinion, if I'm wrong let me be wrong dammit but I know I'm right). The same relationship you're tired of is the same thing your parents went thru and you didn't learn how to treat and respect your significant other.

I know y'all like, what is he trying to say. Based on my opinion, people have commitment issues based on what they seen at home when they were kids and from previous failed relationship attempts. Commitment issues are gained over the course of ones lifetime AND watching or not watching parents respect each other the way it should be done.
One way to break this vicious cycle is to mature and understand that you can no longer place permanent hurt on people. Believe it or not, you may do 100 things right but people will always remember that one thing you did wrong. When you mature and understand that you where prematurely thinking you where ready for a relationship, you will then begin to look at YOUR FAULTS FIRST before you point out someone else's.

I grew up in a single parent home where my parents argued alot and my dad just left without event trying to put up a fight. Seeing and hearing  my mom cry at night really sparked that fire to be the man who never made his woman cry... I try my hardest to always keep a smile on my girlfriend's face and reassure her that I'm always on her side and never against her. It took for her leaving me and realizing that I had to get right with me first BEFORE I got right with her. It took many unanswered calls and no reply on my text messages to see she really wasn't for my campaign. I got lucky and was blessed with another chance. Fellas you're not gonna always get lucky and get that second chance. Make that first chance count. If she's worth the commitment, make it count.

I say all that to say this , we're all scared today of what's at stake tomorrow. True love only happens one time. If its worth it, stop being scared and take that risk. Scared money don't make money.....

#SauceApproved

Before I get started, I would like to tell you to get your mind out of the gutter. (Damn Freaks!)

Based on a True Story.....I Made Up....

Everyone say hello to Richard Jr.

Now that the informal introductions are done, we can get down to the entry.

Kids can be so damn mean. What a way to start a story, right? Anyway, this is why I say that. When I was younger the mean kids nicknamed me "lil Dick." I was named after my father which that made me a junior. One night at a Parent/Teacher meeting some of the kids just so happen to hear my mom call my dad "Dick" which is short for Richard and from there on my life had its turn for the worst. I was ridiculed for years. I spent all of my grammar school days self conscious about my penis size. I know, I know....What do grammar school kids know about private parts? I went to an inner city/public school and my uncle was an unlicensed child photographer and had pics of 3/4ths of the kids that went to my school (read between the lines). At the time we didn't know better. He's locked up now. We also had to move after that news got out that he was our family.  Anyway, You know if you hear something so many times rather its the truth or not, you begin to believe it.

::Fast Forward to Community College::

I got into my first real relationship. Still a virgin in the game, I was afraid to undress in front of people yet alone have sex. Even though I "Matured" in certain areas of the anatomy, I just wasn't ready yet. All this built up aggression form my past and no pussy started me to act out. My girl of three months told me that I'm starting to act like my name...A "Dick." That hurt me, so I dumped her and concentrated on my curricular.

::Fast Forward To Career::

So, I landed a job in my field of studies and had made my own name for myself within the company(Dick Who?).  A couple of years went by, it was as if my past had literally erased itself from memory. Everything seemed to be back on track. I ended up Marrying my wife of now 1 year tonight whom worked in another department at the company. Things were, in my mind great. We were both career focus, making good money and kid free. Anyway, our Anniversary was tonight. This was going to be the night that she had all of me. This was the time that our souls will actually intertwine. She was going to break my virginity dammit. I got off 2 hours before she did to get everything ready for the night. Suddenly I heard the garage door open. This was it. Nervous and "excited" at the same time. I met her in the doorway of our bedroom butt ass naked... and this hoe dropped her wedding ring at the threshold of the door turned around and ran out screaming. All I could think about was..."Maybe I shouldn't of gotten that Dick implant." #OhWell.
 The moral of the story is your past can subconsciously fuck up your future. Be careful. Your eyes and ears are the gateway to your soul. #BUFT "Be U Fvck Them.  MY NAME IS PERRY AND I APPROVE THIS MESSAGE. #CommentsWelcomed

"If you knew better, you would do better" sound like something Derrick and Jason use to tell me when I was a jit at the boys and girls club (mega shout out to the Boys and Girls Club of America). But it's a true statement. I'm a super strong believer in that statement tho. Think about it, if you knew better, (life decision wise), you would do better as in making better decisions. I'm dedicating this entry to my female readers but fellas you can take some notes to this as well.

The first order of business I would like to address is the value of taking care of yourself. When "I" say taking care of yourself, I don't mean brushing your teeth and getting the 8 hours of recommended sleep, but I'm referring to your self esteem and knowing the value of YOU. To my women, God placed you on this earth as mans prized possession not a Christmas toy. "Christmas toy's" got some of y'all like O_o but hear me out. You always got that one cool ass toy for Christmas that you would play with for a solid month until you "got bored" of it. Ladies (and fellas, but mainly ladies) you aren't a toy, you are a diamond! You are a pearl that God placed you on this earth not to get tossed around and unappreciated. He placed you here to nurture and be the backbone to your man.

(SideNote: my black women, my Nubian queens, carry yourself as such and demand your respect. If you don't respect you, nobody else will. To my strong African American brothers, you are kings. You're not that jailbird that won't amount to anything. You are that provider for your family. Be there for your kids and never let your kids live without.)
With the music and reality garbage that we constantly put into our brains, I honestly believe that some people's value of women depreciate like a new car off the lot. Me personally, I appreciate all women. Big, small, odd shapes, well shaped, no shaped. I appreciate you all because y'all make the world turn. But you should know the worth of yourself and not let anybody else define YOU. I understand God blessed you with different attributes that he didn't bless anybody else with but it wasn't created for everybody to see.

This is going to piss alot of people off but it needs to be said. Sex wasn't created to be abused! Sex, in my opinion, is not only a great feeling, but it should not be with everybody. A preacher taught a sermon one Sunday and he was saying how everyone you have sex with, you trade some of your spirits for their spirits. Ladies, you weren't created to have sex with everybody and their friends, you where created to share that experience with your husband. (in this day in time, real pure virgins are rare). Now I'm not against sex, but choose your partners wisely. Take pride in your garden and make sure you take care of your flower. Nobody likes dead flowers. Think about it.

When it comes to relationships: ladies be supportive of your significant other. The true meaning of relationships is to help your partner become a better person, to help them drop habits and be there for them unconditionally. Relationships aren't supposed to be degrading, morally detrimental and stressful. No relationship is easy, you're not always going to see eye to eye. But COMMUNICATION AND COMPROMISE are two big keys that I think are somewhere in the lost and found. If you find yourself in a situation where you feel like you aren't appreciated and you always got something to complain to your girls about, you're doing yourself more harm than good. Learn your man and he will learn you (true story) find out everything he likes and learn how to do it. If you don't wanna learn, don't complain about it. Either you're gonna learn, or somebody will teach you how to please your man.

Now this is where it gets good. I touched on this point previously. But you are the only person that defines you. You make your decisions. Others opinions may influence them, but you make your decisions. Surround yourself with positive people that have common goals and watch how fast you progress. But in order to do so, you must know who you are.... Y'all didn't hear me, YOU MUST KNOW WHO YOU ARE. Take some time and figure out what you like and what you don't like. Figure out what's your style. Don't let others opinions on your life dictate who you are.

Y'all probably didn't watch the Iron Giant growing up, but it was a scene in that movie, where the iron man had discovered out he had guns and he started blowing up the town. The little boy that found him was trying to tell him that he didn't have to be destructive for people to accept him. The key part of this movie to me was, "you choose who you want to be".

So I say that to say this, practice positive reassurance. Ladies when you dress up in business attire, tell yourself that you are a QUEEN. Fellas when you throw on that shirt and tie, looked well groomed and speak with intelligence. When you feel like the world is against you and you're having a bad hair day, look yourself in the eye and tell yourself that you're beautiful. Reassuring yourself of your worth is letting you know that you are somebody and you can be on the positive end of the statistic. "If you knew better you would do better"

- #SauceApproved

The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in the moments of comfort and convenience, but where he stands at time of challenge and controversy.

Now is the time to stand up to the challenges of today.

Man cannot win if he is willing to sell the future of his children for his personal and immediate comfort and safety.

Now is the time to assure a future of hope for our children.

Violence is immoral because it thrives on the hatred rather than love. It destroys cmmunity and makes brotherhood impossible. It creates bitterness in the survivors and brutality in the destroyers. Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy.

Now is the time for non-violent actions; the time to build a community and make brotherhood possible.

True peace is not merely the absence of some negative force - confusion, tension, war, but the presence of some positive force - justice, goodwill, brotherhood.

Now is the time for peace on earth and good will for all humans. Help us, Lord to remember to celebrate and to act as 21st Century servants embracing the dream of the great dreamer, Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. For today we can say, that part of the dream has been realized with President Barack Obama and effort are being made to live in a non- violent society.

the Norte Dame fighting Irish.

If you haven’t heard by now, I have no idea where the hell you been for the last 3 days, probably eating ass or something. Its cool tho, I wont judge you, you re not on trial. 

Here’s a brief recap: 

He said he had a girlfriend. He said she was in a car accident. He said she had Leukemia and consequently lost her battle and died 6 hours after his grandmother passed. The story reached the national media. Attention towards ND and Te’o himself reached a level to where my grandfather was making comments. We all felt the pain, an unimaginable pain, but we sympathized with him. They made us love him. He made us love him. They made people that hated Notre Dame root for him and his success. Well……

He got catfished…. Maybe..



Seems like everyone is getting in on this, and I find it completely hilarious. 

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LMAOOOOOOO! You  know this man lying!

But hey, What do I know?

*Splits White Owl*

You know what's worse than being lonely? Being lonely and you've used up your 5 videos on pornhub #DontJudge. LMAO! Seriously tho, being alone isn't always as bad as people make it seem. I scroll through my Twitter timeline and all I see are hopeless kiddies tweeting, "oh I'm lonely doing this" "oh I'm lonely doing that" (If the shoe fits wear it!). It's tough out here ya know? Now for some reason, majority of us (young folks) are "anti-cuff" or don't want to be in committed relationships, but want to have that one person do shit or have rules like a relationship but are not actually in one.

Now we know people and how their twitter lives are; don't you hate it when you see somebody you know tweeting all those "anti-cuffing" tweets AND as soon as the sun goes down or a new movie comes out, they're the first to say "Man, I wish I had someone to go with to see this movie *inserts sad face emoji*" I see it everyday and it kills me! These same folks that be like oh you can't trust dudes because they all lie, or every female gon smash a homie, be the same ones cooped up in their room wit the "run trey run" face....Crying because they're in denial. (If you haven't seen that movie, Movie2k.com it)

There is nothing wrong with being by ya self (especially when you luck up and pornhub ain't taking ya videos away) lmao no seriously. When you're single, spend more time focusing on setting goals and accomplishing them and spend less time on trying to chase a man or female. Not because I'm a libra (shout out to libra nation), but there comes a point in time when you have to balance out business and pleasure! If you focus on pleasure too much, business never gets done (that's a given). You can't say you want a great career and you want to live comfortably by constantly being in the club 3-4 days A WEEK  and soon when class time comes around or moves to be made, you procrastinate on them.

People constantly preach about "not settling for less" but how many people really live that life? (Personal Moment) With me, it took me going damn near broke af, one pack of noodles a day and a mentality that I already made it, to keep me focused on my prize. Meanwhile, focusing on my prize (my BA in Mass Comm) got me my prize (my chocolate sunflower).

Moral of the story, the cup is always half full when you're not thirsty, but half empty when your parched. In English, when things always going right you don't pay attention to the small things serious until things go wrong. Focus on YOU and pray, your blessings will come.

#SauceApproved

Hey Everyone, You guys know that I am all about love. Contrary to popular belife, there are still some good guys out there. So to this special someone that Ed is talking to...This is for you!

Sometimes in life, you gotta do what you don’t wanna do, to get to where you want to be. Everything should be given to you right? WRONG!! Everything you want in life you have to work for! Whether its to eat the next meal, get the latest kicks or feeding your kids. You gotta work for everything!
In its relevance to relationships, especially long distance relationships, you gotta work hard for it! They say distance makes the heart grow fonder…. Distance also makes the individuals go fuckin insane! In no way shape or form am I unfaithful to my girlfriend, but gah damn, can I at least go to her house when I want? Can I not take her out to eat? Can I not hold her at night and make her feel completely safe? FUCK NO! But it keeps me sane knowing that I have someone miles away who shares the same feelings as I do! But it drives me insane knowing that, someone miles away is aching because I can’t be that great boyfriend she needs , when she needs me! I try my hardest to keep her positive, but some times, I think the distance is killing us, but majority of the time I know the distance is only making us stronger.
At the end of the day the man upstairs placed us two individuals together to not only uplift each others characters and to work on the small things (patience and the ability to compromise) but to keep us both focused on the greater good. The greater good is this math equation
—> Me + You x 60+ years = happiness for an eternity

I find nothing but happiness when I hear the happiness in your voice! I find nothing but peace when I look into your eyes ! Yes the distance is tough but baby please hold on!

—> follow me on twitter @SaucedUpShawty

"Ain't shit changed but the date and even that can get old"~ Me

2+0+1+3=6, check that math for me. Now if my math is correct (I'm a genius, I know), this seems to be the year of the six. Gang members, go and sit yo ass down! You had your shine when you punked Rick Ross. Anyway, If you follow numbers like I don't then you would know that the number six represents a multitude of things (I had to Google this shit). Such as  harmony, beauty, nurturing, love, marriage, family, responsibility, understanding, sympathy, healing, empathic, perfectionist, order, duty, comfort, and service. What does this have to do with anything? Hell if I know, I'm just a messenger, so shooting me will serve you no purpose, plus I'm to young to die and I got fired from there (inside joke). So does this mean this the year that you find love? I don't know, ask Ms. Cleo. Will you magically appear beautiful after years of you being ugly, I doubt it. I'm guessing, now that you have been informed then subliminally you should kinda mirror these terms into your life. No? Ok, I got it...This is the year that if you treat these terms with significant priority then you should have a prosperous year. Maybe? Forget you, I don't see you trying to figure out life, with your stale ass (Ooooo, I can't stand y'all). If you have a clue then there is a comment box, share your thoughts or forever be silent and just wonder if I might of been right. The moral of the story is to think outside the bun (don't sue me Taco Bell). MY NAME IS PERRY AND I APPROVE THIS MESSAGE. #CommentsWelcomed.